Take Things Slowly (A Psychologist’s Advice)

Stress and pressure are indeed the worst enemies you can have in your life.  It ruins your sense of worthiness, motivation, and even emotional and mental state. It deals with too much life toxicities that are sometimes way impossible to handle. It supports the buildup of anxiety and depression, as well. There are a lot of negativities associated with it, and a psychologist would not argue with that. But with all the drama, irregularities, and struggles you may experience in life, there is still one essential thing you need to remember. That is to take things slowly.

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Adults, who realize that both bad and good times pass, have the advantage here over teens, who often suffer greatly after new adversities and wonder if they will be happy again. — Teresa Trower, LMHC

Admittedly, there are things in life that require immediate resolution. Meaning, you need to make instant decisions with or without thoroughly thinking about the consequences of that particular issue. It seems pretty tough, though. But no matter how hard you avoid it, it will always go down to you making a move. However, it is not always the case. There are times that even if the situation requires your immediate action, you can still play pause and take things slowly. You can have the chance to evaluate the factors to make the whole scenario worthwhile.

The Biggest Mistake

Would you agree if people would say that the biggest mistakes in life happen when you rush things? Indeed, it is. When you make a decision that you know can change your life forever, there is no turning back. There is no rewind, edit, and delete portion. With that said, all actions and decisions on a particular matter stay in it. That includes having a family and getting married, deciding what career path to take, taking people in and out of your life, and even changing your whole perception with personality development. Truthfully, addressing essential things in life is not as easy as 1,2, and 3. There are tons of reflections to take and sacrifices to make. Most of the times, things you want are often out of your control. There is always an instance of you giving up and doing things all over again.

It seems that, as a culture, we’ll do almost anything to take our attention away from the moment we’re living in with all its unsettling, in-your-face, nonnegotiable reality. — Alicia Muñoz, LPC

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As what all people know, irrational decisions are often the cause of failed success. There is too much dependency, blame, mishandling, and loss of hope. Yes, there are circumstances that instant approach can become a game changer. However, the process of success does not entirely follow an order. Therefore, the particular move becomes useless. Things can change quickly without prior notice, and whether you like or not, you will still have to create a decision that genuinely works. With that, the automatic creation of resolution will not guarantee an actual and positive outcome. Thus, whatever it is that you think will work today, will not necessarily often create a difference in the future.

What You Can Do

So before you can even sour-grape and regret the things you already did or did not do, you might as well think things thoroughly. You can start by evaluating your goals in life. Learn to check out the importance of your capability in handling problems related to financial stability, career growth, community involvement, even relationship advancement, and so on. There are significant things you can do when you know how to use your time and energy wisely. It is essential to note that when it comes to handling life, relationships, and career decisions, multiple evaluations are needed. Instead of jumping into conclusion, it is better to take a few steps back and reflect on what possible outcome an action may serve.

We offer comfort and soothing in some way, whether it’s a healing glance, a loving touch, a supportive hug, or kind words. The gift of comforting and soothing stimulates the soothing/contentment system in the body and provides a sense of security that helps tone down negative emotions. Beverly Engel L.M.F.T.

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No one said that life would be easy. Everything about it often starts with a mess. There are particular things that you might not like but have to do because you have to. But no matter how harsh and unpredictable life can get, you are still the owner of it. Meaning, only you can make a difference. It is only you who can alter what is in front of you and decide on every piece of it in aim for the betterment of yourself. Yes, stress and anxiety are always part of the process. But those are not enough reasons for you to stay out of track. Be mindful that whatever your decisions are going to be, you need to take things slowly. Besides, patience is always a virtue.